al-kisahnye nak le betanye kepada teman2 sekalian..
ape yg patut buat bile kene rejek ngan seseorg? pujuk rayu diterime semula?or let it go?carik baru jelah..(terkenang kisah membe2 kite yg merejek yg mintak nasihat dulu)
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aku yakin ramai yg bace utusan hari ni.front page lagi cite pasal si hasmawi (soccer player) kawin ngan gadis pilihan.sblm amatlah kecoh (bape lame dok kat front page utusan) pasai kes rejek pakai sms 24h sblm majlis kawin..
jadinye si pihak pmpn dok ungkit2 kate sape yg besalah?? dunia tgk la!! hehe.. tp dlm mase yg same kuakan statement ``Saya akui sukar untuk melupakan Hasmawi kerana ia adalah cinta pertama tetapi saya reda setiap yang berlaku,'' hehe.. ni ape kes?
so.. itulah soalannye.. haruskah dipujuk rayu supaya rejekkan ditarik balik, atau pegi la mampos..igt ko sorg je ke ade kat dunia ni?hehe.. (tp dlm hati dok soksek2 nangis..)
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RE: pelangin anganku musnah (and AtTENTION TO LADIES)
Salamm.... aku the one yg mintak tanye pendapat pasal rejek2 tu.. ngehehe..aku try cerita berdasarkan pertimbangan aku ek
1) Kalo lelaki tu sebelum ni kawan aku, n kitorg memang baik, aku mungkin akan jauhkan diri selepas merejek cos aku xselesa bile kawan yang aku takde perasaan kepade minat kat aku..but, mungkin sementara..cos takkan aku nak putus kawan sebab tu je.. kalo lelaki tu sabar sikit, kawan balik macam biase and tunjukkan yang die hormat keputusan aku, mungkin cair sikit hati ni..pastu kalo lelaki tu pandaipasang strategi nak amek hati aku.. harapan utk diterima semakin besar... kalo ini kesnya, try la cara ni..(tapi tak tau girl tu macam mane pertimbangannya) tak perlu dipujuk rayu..nanti die tension ngan ko, terus putus kawan susah gak kan?
2) Kalo kami tak pernah kawan, and aku tak tau hati budi org tu (ni la situasinye dulu) aku cenderung meng'set' hati aku utk tak nak kenal langsung dgn die.. ye la, die sepatutnya intro la dulu...kawan lame sikit.. paling kurang sebulan..baru la bagitau niat udang di sebalik batu tu.. dalam keadaan ni kalo ko nak rayu lagi susah.. trytanye, kalo tak nak terima, boleh kawan tak? kalo die rejek utk bekawan, that is a sure sign yg die tak interested lgsg utk kenal ko..baik ko cari lain hehe...
sambil2 tu..ladies, kat bawah ni ada panduan skit.. tapi tak leh apply kat laki sebab kaum pompuan ni ade 1 billion pettern tindakbalas dan kelakuan hehe..
*****If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Don't force an attraction. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship, take that as a BIG sign that he is unstable. Do you really want to be with a man like that?
*****Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying; when things are not better Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a whole lot of mess. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you.
*****Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?
*****You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested.
*****If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he treats the WOMEN in his family (not just mom). There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. If he causes any of them...flee.
*****You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow himself – double standards.
*****Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
*****Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you. Don't compete with other women, but be aware that men are attracted to what they see. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that. Never borrow someone else's man. This shows that both you and he are cheap, but you are the cheaper one.
*****Never even chase someone else's man. Even if you get him at the end, he probably only gave in because you showed him you were easy enough. When that man is sitting with his friends, do you know the kind of things he says about you?
*****If a man cheats with you, he'll cheat on you. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you and it doesn't mean that you are meant to be with him. Give up the lifelong task of trying to make someone unavailable, available, someone un-giving, giving, and someone unloving, loving. All men are NOT dogs.
*****You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. When actions and words conflict. Believe the actions. Respond to the actions. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it but it takes two to make it work.
*****Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you there is nothing in this world (within reason) that he wouldn't do for you.
*****Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you are always readily available to him he takes it for granted. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him to spend time with you, you can't force a man to hang out with you; if you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't.
*****Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. Have your own money. Have your own friends. Have your own life. You are confused and immature if you think men are there to provide money and a reason for living. Never let a man mess up your credit.
*****When its time to let go. Let go. Good men should be treated like good men. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, personal and career goals, and socioeconomic status are important.
Reject? Cm assignment,proposal, GF/BF-standard TUV la 2
Kalu nk apply balik kna tunggu jap..review apa kesilapn dlmproposal(?) 2-tsilap kira2 ke?tbesar font ke? Dh proofread baru apply balik..kna bratur gak ke?
Kalu 2nd try kna reject gak, ha better cari yg lain la-maybe dia xseswai ngn awak & Allah maukn the best untuk kita..InsyaAllah ada,cuma xjmpa je lagi..jgn putus asa!
Kalu rs sdey gak, ko apply je terus kt Allah..dia kn KHALIQ..KHALIQ mencipta MAKHLUQ..xclear lg? hm, doa2la sket minta Allah lembutkn hati dia
Cm terer lak aku mbebel psl bnda ni-pengalamn xbyk tp ada la jugak
klu hati dah betukau menjadi batu plak camne? oppss.. lupos.. jgn memujuk rayu.. hehe.. lantak le kan nak jadi batu ke ape.. tenkiu2 for the opinion..
btw..pasal yg si enonimes tulis byk2 dalam omputeh tu, just nak ckp sket la..
btl ape yg ditulis.cumenye tu dari pndangn org2 sebelah barat,yang pade aku dah byk meresap masuk dlm pale otak org islam.(dari segi kekeluargaan la-sbb kite dlm topik kekeluargaan)
pade aku.sbg isteri, kite spttnye meletakkan sepenuh pengharapn,penggantungan pade suami.merasakan ke'ada'annye dia sbg suami.yg teratas dan segala,melebihi ibu dan bapa.
and those pade lelaki yg bernama suami..don't take for granted bile si isteri mule meletakkan sepenuhnye pade kite.tak bermakne spende aku pon ko basuh, nak arah2 aku plak!.. NOPE.. maariage is sharing and giving.bile dah ade family pandai2 la memberi dan menerime.
al-fendek cerite nye..
ape yg ditulis dlm omputeh oleh cik enonimes tu blhla nak apply untuk hidup ber 'gila'pren/'boya'pren.. jgn letakkan segalanya utk si dia.
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kawan yg dah ter'out' dgn jalan allah pon kite same2 bantu.yg nampak talent2 nak 'out' pon pakat2 kita tarik bagi tak 'in' balik. pokoknya.. jgn sama2 teghejun sudahla..
hehe.. aku yg 'paste' kate2 omputih tu hehe.. takde la nak memksudkannye betul2.. benda tu pun difwd kan o kawan omputih..mungkin memang tak sesuai utk kite..aku pun tak dpt nak menyelami sgt kesan buruk kate2 tu..tp on the surface aku setuju.. berdasarkan senario laki pompuan zaman ni.. whatever la.. sorry la aku tak tapis dulu..sekali bace je pun.. memg ade yg tak bolh dipakai
ermm..rsnya kwn omputih cik anonymous ni, baca buku 'He's Not So Into You' kot, yg ditulis oleh one of the writers bg siri 'Sex and The City'. Well...ada yg reliable utk kita fikirkan, and perhaps some are quite true..but still..itu pemikiran dan cara hidup org sana, kita yg berpaksikan Timur dan ISlam, punya cara yg lebih baik ..pun begitu..tak salah kita baca dan ambil tahu, mungkin kita boleh belajar sesuatu.
hmm..mcm2lah...=]. itu yg terlintas ms baca post nih. Satu perkataan je yg boleh sy bg, .."lain org, lainlah...". Ada manusia bila dh kene reject..dgn rilek dan gembira teruskan hidup. Ada manusia pulak yg tak boleh nak terima hakikat kena tolak, terus putus kawan. Tak kurg jugak yg serik dan tak sanggup nak approach sapa2 dh. Ada yg fight habis2..tak putus asa,..selagi tak dpt, tak berenti cuba. Ada yg dirasuk syaitan nafsu, bila direject, pergi buat cerita bukan2 burukkan org yg yg reject dia nih. Kalau nak listkan kepelbagaian reaksi dan tindakan manusia terhadap 'penolakan cinta' nih..boleh buat satu buku..
The point is..manusia mcmana yg kita mahu jd. Itu shj. If u choose to mourn, menyesali dan menangisi nasib, keep mourning, takde org nak halang. Dlm ms yg sama,org yg reject kita tgh suka2 hidup dgn ceria, kita yg dok sorg2 lara jiwa. Or u can choose to learn from it, smile to the person yg reject kita and go on with ur life. Show to that person that u are perfectly fine and happy even without him/her, that u still own some dignity within. Tak pyhlah canang2 satu kampung atau panggil press utk kabarkan 'kita ni mangsa keadaan, dia yg bersalah', makin memalukan diri sendiri dan menunjukkan yg kita ni pathetic sgt je ( mcm kes pemain bola sepak tu...fuyyo..kalah filem melayu..).Kalau cinta kita ditolak, anggaplah mmg tade jodoh, that someone BETTER is waiting in front, and we are just meant to be life-long friends. Kan best mcm tuh..hati senang, hidup mudah. Mana tahu, mula2 dia reject, dh elok2 berkwn lps tu, tup-tap..menjadi pulak..ha..kalau dh jodoh, tak kemana.." MAnusia merancang, Tuhan juga merancang..dan sesungguhnya Tuhanlah sebaik2 perancang.." =]. PErcaya kepada itu, insyaAllah..kita akan lebih tenang dan redha. Org berkahwin lagikan bercerai, inikan pulak tiada sebarang ikatan terjalin. If things didnt work out the way we want according to plan, ..i know it's tough and hard to swallow, but always believe, yg Tuhan punya sesuatu yg lebih baik yg Dia rancangkan utk kita.
Apa2 pun, 'rejection' ke 'penolakan' ke..how we view it, that's what important. Kalau kita lihat itu sbg sgt2 teruk utk kita..mcm tulah jdnya. But if we see it as a part of life, a part of growing up..then the benefit is ours. But frankly kan..sgt respect org yg berani utk admit perasaan dia, atau dgn terus-terang menyatakan keinginan dia utk 'get to know us better'..bukan semua org boleh buat tu. And lebih respect lagi, apabila org yg disukai tu menolak hasrat dia..dia menerima dgn hati terbuka, dan terus berkwn seperti biasa...
okalh..minta maaf ya silap salah mana2..
" when one door of happiness is closed, another opens, but we often waste our time staring at the closed door, and dont notice the other doors that are opened for us.."
Dalam proses nak berlaku perpecahan: DEFEND PERHUBUNGAN SEBAIK MUNGKIN.
Tak dapat dielakkan, dan perpecahan dah nak berlaku? : DEFEND LAGI HINGGA KE TITISAN DARAH TERAKHIR.
Berlaku perpecahan?: Alang2 putus, kasi putus terus urat halkum dengan urat merih.
Dirujuk kembali? : Reject..
Disimpulkan cerita: Cuba sebaik mungkin dalam mempertahankan hubungan tu. Tapi kalau tak mampu jugak, cuba jugak sebaik mungkin. Bila dah berlaku perpecahan? Umpama kahak.. Selagi dalam mulut, boleh la jugak nak telan lagi. Tetapi skali dah ludah, pastinya takkan dijilat kembali. Ingat, YG DILUDAH TAKKAN DIJILAT KEMBALI. Kalau jilat jugak, itu menunjukkan betapa murahnya seseorang itu. Walaupun dia nak rujuk balik, tolak je. Kenapa?
"Sebab dulu time aku nak defend hubungan, ko nak jugak pilih jalan perpecahan.. Abistuh sekarang kenapa nak sambung balik sedangkan ko sendiri yg mintak pecah??"
Di sini baru kita dpt tengok nilai dan harga diri sama ada murah atau sebaliknya.. Adakah KITA YG DIPENGARUHI HUBUNGAN, atau KITA YG MEMPENGARUHI HUBUNGAN? Kalau kita yg DIPENGARUHI, maknanya tak cukup power lagi.. Masih tak dapat nak mencapai "kuasa" yg sepatutnya ada pada manusia.
Tapi kalau kita yg mempengaruhi keadaan, situasi dan perhubungan, bermakna kita yg lebih berkuasa dan berpengaruh. Maka barulah bertepatan dan seiringan dengan istilah "KHALIFAH". Kerana sifat khalifah adalah sbg pemerintah, pemberi arahan, pentadbir dan penguasa.. Sifat yg sebaliknya pula ialah sifat HAMBA.
Biar menjadi HAMBA kepada Tuhan, tapi jangan menjadi hamba kepada hubungan atau keadaan. Biar kita menjadi penguasa atas diri sendiri dan segala yg mampu kita tadbir, tetapi jangan lupa daratan bahawa kita masih hamba kepada Dia.
Kalau ini jalan yg dipilih, there will be no turning back. Kerana sifat pemerintah yg berkuasa ialah tegas, firm, dan ada pegangan yg kuat atas kepercayaannya. Jenis yg takkan jilat kembali ludahnya. Kerana orang yg hebat adalah org yg akan terus mara dan maju ke hadapan, bukannya yg berundur ke belakang.
Umpama memandu kereta, fokus utama adalah arah hadapan. Sekali sekala sahaja akan menjeling pada side mirror. Bukannya memandu ke hadapan, tapi fokus pada side mirror. Kalau mcm tu la cara pemanduannya, sekejap je dah masuk longkang.
Kesimpulannya, you sendiri pilih nak usahakan jalan yg mana. You sendiri pilih nak letak harga diri you pada taraf yg mana. Dan you sendiri pilih you nak jadi orang yg jenis mcm mana. Kerana jalan yg saya beritahu ini adalah jalan umpama pepatah:
"Buat baik berpada-pada, buat jahat jangan sekali".
Iaitu jalan yg tiada 2nd chance. Tiada peluang kedua. Tiada butang "reset". Jalan yg buat sungguh2, pertahankan sungguh2. Tapi once dianiaya (walaupun SEKALI), selamanya ditinggalkan.
Kalau sesuai dengan jiwa you, you pakai dan jadikanlah sbg pegangan.. Tapi kalau tak sesuai, you masih harapkan 2nd chance, masih meletakkan "harapan" pada hubungan yg telah putus, itu you kena cari jalan lain.. Jalan ini tak sesuai dgn you.. Sbb saya juga pernah mengalaminya.. Dan jalan yg paling sesuai dengan jiwa saya ialah jalan yg telah disebutkan tadi..
Choose wisely.. Because each path you have taken, will construct your character without you even know it..!!
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pujuk rayu diterime semula?or let it go?carik baru jelah..(terkenang kisah membe2 kite yg merejek yg mintak nasihat dulu)
maksud sy ialah sy xkn turut serta (tolong) dlm kejahatan kalu kwn sy wt kejahatan.
hehe.. aku yg 'paste' kate2 omputih tu hehe.. takde la nak memksudkannye betul2.. benda tu pun difwd kan o kawan omputih..mungkin memang tak sesuai utk kite..aku pun tak dpt nak menyelami sgt kesan buruk kate2 tu..tp on the surface aku setuju.. berdasarkan senario laki pompuan zaman ni.. whatever la.. sorry la aku tak tapis dulu..sekali bace je pun.. memg ade yg tak bolh dipakai
